The divorce rate in this country is extremely high and everyone who has parents who are divorced are most likely to get one themselves because they don’t see what it’s like to have a proper family and what is a healthy technique to keep a marriage strong. Statistic say that 40%-50% of Americans are divorced and kids are suffering everyday from their parents separating. This country is not teaching the youth about proper relationships society has a bad habit of being obsessed with themselves and they are not learning that marriage is all about sacrificing for the other. So many divorces are caused by couples just giving up because they don’t want to make the sacrifice anymore and they hurt those around them. We need to teach the youth how to have a healthy strong relationship and we need examples to look up to on what a healthy marriage look like.
I used to be one of those stubborn people/ still am who hated the chastity talks because I would hear them from people who were either virgins or they waited till marriage and I got so annoyed because I thought the were just wanting everyone to know that they stayed chaste and did the right thing, it drove me crazy, I felt that I didn’t take the talk seriously and I thought they were losers. Listening to a talk like that does not make me want to be like them. I always wanted to hear from someone who had experience and could really tell me the truth and honestly scare me by just being honest. If you like me then please watch the video that I posted a few blogs ago and watch Crystalina Evert talk about her past and how hard it was for her and how she regrets all of it. When I first read her book when I was in middle school I really listened to what she had to say and I understood why it’s important to be chaste.
“The right relationship won’t distract you from God. It will bring you closer to Him.”
― Jason Evert
This quote is exactly what God intended on relationships being. Relationships are supposed to be about the guy and the girl bringing out the best in the other and God should be the biggest focus. Every action you make is what will help you or hold you back from getting to heaven. Life is all about how we can get to heaven, everyone has their own way of getting their but we are all supposed to make it. Being married is so you can help each other on the journey, it’s all about having a family and raising kids to make good decisions so they can get to heaven as well.
I know that this looks stupid, honestly I just went to look for a quote for the blog but I literally watched the whole video very intrigued by it and after I was getting choked up. He has a lot of great points that I think everyone should pay attention to you. I don’t care if your a virgin and you think you’ll be until marriage because everyone struggles don’t lie. Admit it and try to solve the problem by getting advise and following it.
The media shows us the glorious moments that they want us to see. The media shows us the happy side of the story. It is very uncommon for people to remain chaste before they are married, we are challenge to say know and it is hard but not impossible. God gives us the grace to say no, he expects us do stay strong. We turn on the TV or read a magazine that makes sure to talk about sex. They shove it in our faces, it’s everywhere we must learn to live a life of virtue because that’s what will make us happy. So many relationships are based on sex and then they get married and their marriage falls apart because they never loved each other they loved the pleasure the other gave them. Love is not something we should mess with because it is us giving ourselves to another and when we don’t take it seriously we tend to hurt ourselves in a way that we feel like we do not deserve anyone. That is never the case, we ALWAYS deserve to be loved!
We all know that if he just wants sex then he’s no good but the funny thing is were not perfect. It’s just not that easy! If you really like someone and they want you to go farther the chances of you agreeing are pretty high. It’s how were made, we have passions and flaws that we have to control. If you say no then be strong if they are pushy then you need to get out of the relationship. Teens feel pressured that they will lose the person that they were seeing but it’s better then hurting yourself.
Every teens wants to date someone, it’s the feeling of being liked. The flattery is so tempting for us to fall for the other, how could we refuse . I’m not telling you to not date in high school! What I want to say if we just need to be careful. I think it’s great when teens date, I was talking to a priest and he advised me to date every guy I saw. Meaning get to know what you like because you’ll never know until you see. We should always make sure to be with someone we trust and make sure we trust ourselves. Sometimes for some it takes longer to grow in maturity and their not ready for a relationship. We are so young and naive at times that we don’t know what we are getting ourselves into. We need to make sure we are not taken advantage of. Boys and girls are guilty of abuse on the other. Dating with grace is something that every relationship should have. Healthy relationships help make each other better people and that’s what relationships are about, how to make the other a better person. Make sure to bring out the best in the other.
The link I posted about the girl writing about her and her husband on their wedding night having sex for the first time she explains that the media makes sex out to be something it’s not. They make you think that everything has to be sexy and dirty, sex is supper exciting but it’s not this sexy dirty thing, we should not feel threatened by it. It is something that is beautiful and we give ourselves to our spouse it’s the sacrament of marriage between two people and God.
Everyone loves to party, getting drunk, playing music, talking with friends, and getting high. All these things depend on the environment you put yourself in, we should be aware of the crowds we hang out with and make sure to be with people we trust and make sure we trust ourselves because I think everyone in their lifetime say they’ll never do something like that and of course they do it. If certain situations get to be to much for us then we need to get out or tell the ones who are acting out to go because thats not fair to hurt others while hurting yourself. We also need to be aware if were the ones causing the hurting, we need to realize if we are leading others to sin and again I think at some point each of us have or will in their life.
Teens always feel the need to look cool and do what everyone else is doing, stand tall and be strong, if people make fun of you because your not drinking or doing drugs or having sex just ignore it. I’m not telling you to not be friends with them but if you are there friend help them to make the best decision and show them how they are hurting themselves. Make sure not to surround yourself in difficult situation where you can cause yourself to get hurt.